"So then I go..."/"Just saying"

[amber]

This is a thread for people who have stories that have "so then I go" in them. Also for people who want to go "I was just saying".
Which means, there are small, strange exchanges that happen in life, that sometimes you want to tell. Exchanges where "you go", then "they go", "then I was all", and "then they were all" and then, well, "you were just saying".
You know the types of convos I mean, though I might encounter them more than your average person, being in a close together city/living area and all. Which doesn't mean that mine are more interesting, and I can't help but think at least some other people might have these odd, short, random exchanges that seem slightly bizarre to them.


Just right now, I biked one block to the store. I was coming back, and a BG (black guy) was biking towards me on the sidewalk.

He goes: "Hey, big legs!!! hey, big legs, watch out!!!"

So then I go: "Hey! dumb ass! dumb ass watch out!!!"

And we passed each other.

The end.

I have to say, I am not excited that the first thing someone thinks to call me when they see me riding a bike in the dark from 35 feet away, and they are on a bike as well, is "big legs". It honestly strikes me that this person must have exceptional night vision.
It seems the BM have a special eye for this, but it is usually spoken in more complimentary terms, rather than being a description of my entire physical presence whilst traveling on a bike in the dark.
Just saying.

[irishgrl]

Originally Posted by amber

This is a thread for people who have stories that have "so then I go" in them. Also for people who want to go "I was just saying".
Which means, there are small, strange exchanges that happen in life, that sometimes you want to tell. Exchanges where "you go", then "they go", "then I was all", and "then they were all" and then, well, "you were just saying".
You know the types of convos I mean, though I might encounter them more than your average person, being in a close together city/living area and all. Which doesn't mean that mine are more interesting, and I can't help but think at least some other people might have these odd, short, random exchanges that seem slightly bizarre to them.


Just right now, I biked one block to the store. I was coming back, and a BG (black guy) was biking towards me on the sidewalk.

He goes: "Hey, big legs!!! hey, big legs, watch out!!!"

So then I go: "Hey! dumb ass! dumb ass watch out!!!"

And we passed each other.

The end.

I have to say, I am not excited that the first thing someone thinks to call me when they see me riding a bike in the dark from 35 feet away, and they are on a bike as well, is "big legs". It honestly strikes me that this person must have exceptional night vision.
It seems the BM have a special eye for this, but it is usually spoken in more complimentary terms, rather than being a description of my entire physical presence whilst traveling on a bike in the dark.
Just saying.

Amber, what is it with you and your nocturnal bicycle-journeys to the corner rip-you-off store? You seem to have nothing but asswipes in your neighborhood apparently!

I guess "big legs" is better than "big ass" or "no boobs" or something of that nature but I mean REALLY~ its not like Italian women have the monopoly on big legs or anything Especially in SOME neighborhoods...........well, anyway, you're a gutsy chick, you could've probably decked him anyway. High Five.

[amber]

Originally Posted by irishgrl

Amber, what is it with you and your nocturnal bicycle-journeys to the corner rip-you-off store? You seem to have nothing but asswipes in your neighborhood apparently!

I guess "big legs" is better than "big ass" or "no boobs" or something of that nature but I mean REALLY~ its not like Italian women have the monopoly on big legs or anything Especially in SOME neighborhoods...........well, anyway, you're a gutsy chick, you could've probably decked him anyway. High Five.

^^^^

Easy, girl. We don't all live in the outskirts of ReddingNess. And trust, the reason why I am so shocked is b/c this would never happen in Chico, or P'ville. I live right on the line of Berkeley and Oakland. People are out. Shizz is going on. Ghetto be there. Etc.
Yes, we would think I didn't have the monopoly on anything, including big legs. I can't totally explain it. I think it is weird and funny. I guess these BG are suprised, somehow, to see a WG with big legs and butt. But I've seen others, so...
Plus, besides that, I have no idea why someone would choose to describe someone that way. Like, I would never see that first, or say it out loud, or use that as an actual initial description of someone.
That is why it is the biggest mystery of all.

That's why I started a thread. B/C I'm sure that others have weird interactions on a daily basis. Non normal interactions. Weird sh*t happens to people all the time.

Oh, and to those who don't know what the heck, I don't live in a bad neighborhood or anything. I live close to campus, and town (Berkeley, and Oakland), everything is very mixed round these parts. Most of the people around me own houses and have kids and take care of shiz and etc. I think that is different from a lot of cities.

[irishgrl]

Originally Posted by amber

^^^^

Easy, girl. We don't all live in the outskirts of ReddingNess. And trust, the reason why I am so shocked is b/c this would never happen in Chico, or P'ville. I live right on the line of Berkeley and Oakland. People are out. Shizz is going on. Ghetto be there. Etc.
Yes, we would think I didn't have the monopoly on anything, including big legs. I can't totally explain it. I think it is weird and funny. I guess these BG are suprised, somehow, to see a WG with big legs and butt. But I've seen others, so...
Plus, besides that, I have no idea why someone would choose to describe someone that way. Like, I would never see that first, or say it out loud, or use that as an actual initial description of someone.
That is why it is the biggest mystery of all.

That's why I started a thread. B/C I'm sure that others have weird interactions on a daily basis. Non normal interactions. Weird sh*t happens to people all the time.

Oh, and to those who don't know what the heck, I don't live in a bad neighborhood or anything. I live close to campus, and town (Berkeley, and Oakland), everything is very mixed round these parts. Most of the people around me own houses and have kids and take care of shiz and etc. I think that is different from a lot of cities.

Girl, I was born in O-Town and grew up all over the Bay. I know what happens at all hours of the night. I cant believe the amount of disrespect you have gotten from just about everyone you've ever come in contact with! its mind boggling! Ive been on the streets late at night in various towns all over the Bay, in fact Ive hitch-hiked at 2am to my MOM's house and made it home safely in ONE trip! with only a MINOR lecture mind you!


anyway, you dont deserve the crap that gets slinged your way. from the chicks or the guys. (I remember your other trip to the store, and the "girls" that gave you a bad time) of all the folks here, I think I can most identify with what you went thru and I say it stinks. You hold your head high, like you have been. I may not have been your best bud, but I'd sure as hell watch your back for ya.......

[xdreamsunwindx]

Originally Posted by irishgrl

I guess "big legs" is better than "big ass" or "no boobs" or something of that nature but I mean REALLY~ its not like Italian women have the monopoly on big legs or anything Especially in SOME neighborhoods...........well, anyway, you're a gutsy chick, you could've probably decked him anyway. High Five.

Why is Amber gutsy for saying that? If she said that to a WHITE man, would you think the same way?

No offense, Amber, I just found that might interesting...

[irishgrl]

Originally Posted by xdreamsunwindx

Why is Amber gutsy for saying that? If she said that to a WHITE man, would you think the same way?

No offense, Amber, I just found that might interesting...

since when is the term "dumb ass" racial??????? One might make the case that its gender specific but hardly racial.....

[xdreamsunwindx]

Originally Posted by irishgrl

since when is the term "dumb ass" racial??????? One might make the case that its gender specific but hardly racial.....

Well, see, when you say something like "especially in SOME neighborhoods," a lot of people might take that the wrong way, as in thinking you're stereotyping black women, eg; Italian women don't have the monopoly on bigger butts. And from there, I thought you were implying that Amber is gutsy for living in an ethnic neighborhood.

I just thought that was interesting, that's all...

[irishgrl]

Originally Posted by xdreamsunwindx

Well, see, when you say something like "especially in SOME neighborhoods," a lot of people might take that the wrong way, as in thinking you're stereotyping black women, eg; Italian women don't have the monopoly on bigger butts. And from there, I thought you were implying that Amber is gutsy for living in an ethnic neighborhood.

I just thought that was interesting, that's all...

I was speaking from the perspective of a person (who happens to be white) who has lived in a multi-ethnic Bay Area Neighborhood, and who has also happened to embark upon an after hours trek into the gloaming. Make of that what you will.

[bretonbanquet]

I have something like this... I mean these happen all the time but this one sticks in my mind for some reason. I was driving my crappy little van in the centre of London, in the most almighty traffic. Anyway, a taxi cab tries to push in front of me in a really annoying way as he comes out of a side street, so I annoyingly angled the van so he couldn't get out, what an ass. Anyway, he winds down his crappy window and says:

Taxi driver: Think you're f**king clever, do you?
Me: I do OK.
TD: What have you gained from doing that?
Me: I stayed in front of you.
TD: New to this game, are ya?
Me: I wish I was.
TD: Every day, I do this, every day I'm here in the traffic.
Me: What do you want, a f**king medal?
TD: F**k off.

That was about it, but I figured the vibe fitted in here

[irishgrl]

Originally Posted by bretonbanquet

I have something like this... I mean these happen all the time but this one sticks in my mind for some reason. I was driving my crappy little van in the centre of London, in the most almighty traffic. Anyway, a taxi cab tries to push in front of me in a really annoying way as he comes out of a side street, so I annoyingly angled the van so he couldn't get out, what an ass. Anyway, he winds down his crappy window and says:

Taxi driver: Think you're f**king clever, do you?
Me: I do OK.
TD: What have you gained from doing that?
Me: I stayed in front of you.
TD: New to this game, are ya?
Me: I wish I was.
TD: Every day, I do this, every day I'm here in the traffic.
Me: What do you want, a f**king medal?
TD: F**k off.

That was about it, but I figured the vibe fitted in here

well, if it would have come to blows, it might have fitted......


and Amber, I may live in Redneckville NOW, but I was CoCoCounty for the first 25 yrs of my life. Im no hayseed believe me.

[amber]

Originally Posted by xdreamsunwindx

Why is Amber gutsy for saying that? If she said that to a WHITE man, would you think the same way?

No offense, Amber, I just found that might interesting...

Oh, no, yeah, I just didn't see where Irshc..grl ever mentioned white or black stuff. I did, but that was me.

Also, no white person has ever said anything like that to me.

I had assumed she thought I was gutsy what with saying stuff to people in neighborhoods less than country goodness, like hers, in places that were almost, if not actually, cities. Seriously, if you'd been where she lived, Cricket sounds would be high traffic. I been there, it's awesome. So much quiet and plants and animals. So little cement.
And I assumed by "some neighborhoods" she meant "bad neighborhoods", which, if this neighborhood were in her town it would be bad, however in mine, it's middle/lower/upper/ middle class.

Originally Posted by XDUX

Well, see, when you say something like "especially in SOME neighborhoods," a lot of people might take that the wrong way, as in thinking you're stereotyping black women, eg; Italian women don't have the monopoly on bigger butts. And from there, I thought you were implying that Amber is gutsy for living in an ethnic neighborhood.

I just thought that was interesting, that's all...

"A lot" of people might not be the actual people we are, and I may not have meant what you would think those theoretical people thought I meant by what I said.

Well, in some places, bad neighborhoods are different races. In my home town, bad neighborhoods are white trash.
My point is, you can only extrapolate out to a certain point beyond what someone actually says.
After that point, you are just making stuff up, yeah? Like, no one ever said anything about black women, or what "bad" neighborhoods consist of, or who has bigger butts.

And I didn't really recall anyone "implying" anything, unless, of course, their thoughts took you in a particular direction of implying things, in which case, then you made that up.

Like, I never thought of black women, or big butts, or if I did, I certainly didn't see anyone else saying anything of the sort.

And so therefore, it seems to me that you kinda over-infered things about things that people said. Like, you made up extra stuff that was never in the words people wrote.

I'm just trying to say, maybe there isn't so much offense involved with everything, maybe there are just perspectives and objectives and points of view and egos and blindness.
Perhaps.
And also perhaps low comprehensive reading scores. Perhaps.

[irishgrl]

^^^^^^
well put. but then, people have been misunderstanding me for awhile

and again I've only lived in this area of redneckville since I was 25. Ive still lived here less time than I've lived there

perhaps the crickets arent so spectacular, but dont forget, we also have BIGFOOT! for true!

edited to add:
I've always liked Santana's music, Samba Pa Ti was one of my fave Santana songs. I like his mellower stuff.

[Sarah]

I have a random "so then I go" story.

Sooo. It's 4:30 in the morning, and I go into the police department to gather information I need to write my news stories. Oh, great, it's the extra dickheaded dispatcher working. This will be just great.

He looks at me. I know he knows who I am and what I'm there for. We've been through this time and time again.

Cop: Can I help you?
Me: [sigh] Yes. I'm Sarah __ with __. I'm just here to check a couple reports.
Cop: I don't know anything about that. (SAME EFFING THING HE SAYS EVERY TIME HE WORKS.)
Me: Yes, you do, Officer _I-know-your-name-because-we've-had-this-conversation-before_.
I come here at the same time every week, and -my nameless co-worker- comes here at this same time every DAY.
Cop: I don't know. Maybe. I need to see some ID.

Okay, at this point, I just cannot help myself. I have turned on my attitude now, and it cannot be reversed.

Me: Do you seriously need to see my ID? You do realize it's against state law to deny a resident of the state to see these reports, right?
Cop: I'm just trying to verify your credentials.
Me: I'm not trying to be an asshole, Officer _buzz-cut-meathead_, but the only credential you need to verify is that I live in this state. And you SEE ME ALMOST EVERY WEEK. Do you SERIOUSLY have a problem with people coming in here at 4 in the morning asking to see your reports illegally? None of your colleagues make me jump through hoops, and you are making my job VERY difficult right now. I just. want. to see. the reports.
Cop: *stare*
Me: *stare*
Cop: *opens the door*


Piggy bastard.

Other cops have told me - even the chief of police told me - "Larry is just an asshole. He's stuck in some warped military mentality." One of the guys I really like was like, have your boss call the chief again... we're sick of his crap too. Sooo, he did, and Chief posted a memo saying to just let us see the damn things, 'cuz they aren't holding "nuclear secrets" back there. Incidentally, he hasn't been back on dispatch since. I wonder if chief changed his duties... he said, "i don't have many problems with my guys. in fact, i only have one problem, and it's him" so I wouldn't be surprised.