what's the world coming to?

[all the same]

I have been ridiculously sad lately. It seems everyone in my life is going through some major trauma right now. Family deaths, cancer scares, depression, loneliness. It makes it really hard to figure out what the point of it all is. I get easily overwhelmed by life. Anyone else?

[strandinthewind]

Hang in there. I learned a long time ago, life is what you make it and it really does not get any better or worse - it just gets. So, to quote Tammy Faye Baker ( ) "When life hands you lemons, make lemonade!" I know that is ridiculously simple, but the deeper meaning is make the best of everything, even when you feel like your life is fading

[dissention]

Originally Posted by strandinthewind

Hang in there. I learned a long time ago, life is what you make it and it really does not get any better or worse - it just gets. So, to quote Tammy Faye Baker ( ) "When life hands you lemons, make lemonade!" I know that is ridiculously simple, but the deeper meaning is make the best of everything, even when you feel like your life is fading

Or as Dolly says, "You have to go through the rain to get to the rainbow."

I love Dolly AND Tammy so much.

[all the same]

Originally Posted by strandinthewind

Hang in there. I learned a long time ago, life is what you make it and it really does not get any better or worse - it just gets. So, to quote Tammy Faye Baker ( ) "When life hands you lemons, make lemonade!" I know that is ridiculously simple, but the deeper meaning is make the best of everything, even when you feel like your life is fading

I prefer "when life hands you lemons, shoot yourself in the face." But that might be just me. Just kidding. I know. It's the same old "it can't be that bad" thing. But I come from a long line of depressive people. When it gets bad, I take it all on and it takes over my everything. I'll move past this. I always do. But how many damn times does the world have to fall apart? It seems to come in tremendous waves. There is so much distress around me right now. Too much.

[strandinthewind]

Originally Posted by all the same

I prefer "when life hands you lemons, shoot yourself in the face." But that might be just me. Just kidding. I know. It's the same old "it can't be that bad" thing. But I come from a long line of depressive people. When it gets bad, I take it all on and it takes over my everything. I'll move past this. I always do. But how many damn times does the world have to fall apart? It seems to come in tremendous waves. There is so much distress around me right now. Too much.

All I can offer is my life experiences. I thought my life would turn out differently. It did not. Som I made the best of it. I truly try to see the bright side of everything and it is VERY hard to do and I sometimes fail. If you are really really depressed, you might want to see a professional. Sometimes having an objective ear that is trained to help you can do just that. ALso, if it is a situation you can control, like a bad friend, etc., you have the power over your life and you can walk away. Good Luck to you.

[dissention]

Originally Posted by strandinthewind

All I can offer is my life experiences. I thought my life would turn out differently. It did not. Som I made the best of it. I truly try to see the bright side of everything and it is VERY hard to do and I sometimes fail.

I just read a study today that says cynicism begins very early in childhood. I was f*cked from the beginning.

[strandinthewind]

Originally Posted by dissention

I just read a study today that says cynicism begins very early in childhood. I was f*cked from the beginning.

LOL - I am such a cynic - but being the Jedi I am, I trained myself not to let it get to me

[SuzeQuze]

Originally Posted by all the same

I prefer "when life hands you lemons, shoot yourself in the face." But that might be just me. Just kidding. I know. It's the same old "it can't be that bad" thing. But I come from a long line of depressive people. When it gets bad, I take it all on and it takes over my everything. I'll move past this. I always do. But how many damn times does the world have to fall apart? It seems to come in tremendous waves. There is so much distress around me right now. Too much.

You are absorbing too much pain from others. Unplug, do something just for you that makes you feel good. Things are not all bad it only seems so, its a trick your mind plays on you when you are low.

What concerns me is that you say you come from a long line of depressive people. Depression is very steeped in biology so I would recommend that you do get help because it isn't normal and you don't have to live that way. My family is riddled with it and I've battled it with a lot of success and I'm happy today. If I didn't get help I'm not sure I'd be here. I'm also not sure my brother would be here since he just went through a severe episode which I helped him with. It broke my heart. But he is doing so well now. Anyway, if you would like, we can talk about this more offline.

I also want to point out that the world does extra suck right now, it isn't just you. But you can still feel good.

[GateandGarden]

Originally Posted by SuzeQuze

You are absorbing too much pain from others. Unplug, do something just for you that makes you feel good. Things are not all bad it only seems so, its a trick your mind plays on you when you are low.

What concerns me is that you say you come from a long line of depressive people. Depression is very steeped in biology so I would recommend that you do get help because it isn't normal and you don't have to live that way. My family is riddled with it and I've battled it with a lot of success and I'm happy today. If I didn't get help I'm not sure I'd be here. I'm also not sure my brother would be here since he just went through a severe episode which I helped him with. It broke my heart. But he is doing so well now. Anyway, if you would like, we can talk about this more offline.

I also want to point out that the world does extra suck right now, it isn't just you. But you can still feel good.

Ditto to everything she just said. I knew she was going to say it better than I ever could.

I have to agree about professional help. It was an idea I was at first opposed to but it proved to help me through my teen years, which were pretty awful, though it's all relative.

I also agree that if you are in a situation in which you're suffering for others as well as yourself, you really should take some time out to focus on yourself, doing something for you that is much deserved.

Things aren't all peachy with the world in general, as she said, so I've no doubt that's affecting all of us to some degree. You're definitely not alone and don't ever hesitate to vent to us here on The Ledge. I think that's part of the reason why we're all here together.

[all the same]

Thanks you guys. I think it is time for professional help for me. I've been a wreck since I was a teen. Battled suicidal thoughts (not so much in the capacity that I want to kill myself, but that I just no longer want to be), depression, loneliness, and a host of other things. But I think my biggest problem is that am a sponge for other people's pain. If someone is in pain, I can sense them from across the room and swallow all their pain and it absolutely knocks me on my ass. I really gotta do something about this because it's not really making my life work for me. I feel like I have a totally disfunctional life.

[amber]

Originally Posted by SuzeQuze

You are absorbing too much pain from others.

Twue, and Cancers tend to do this more than most. It's like, our astrological job. But that's why we like to laugh so much, right?...and remember...
"always la-hame! always la-hame! liiiiiife!!!!"
Did that cheer you up? I knew it would...
I told my one friend, who's b-day is today, how bad I felt, and she gave me some kind words. She was all "you're great! People like you! and if anyone doesn't, they are totally missing out, and they are lame! You have a great personality! And, it's probably only people who have ugly hair, anyways!"
so, I offer those same words to you, in hopes they offer you solace....

[all the same]

Originally Posted by amber

Twue, and Cancers tend to do this more than most. It's like, our astrological job. But that's why we like to laugh so much, right?...and remember...
"always la-hame! always la-hame! liiiiiife!!!!"
Did that cheer you up? I knew it would...
I told my one friend, who's b-day is today, how bad I felt, and she gave me some kind words. She was all "you're great! People like you! and if anyone doesn't, they are totally missing out, and they are lame! You have a great personality! And, it's probably only people who have ugly hair, anyways!"
so, I offer those same words to you, in hopes they offer you solace....

ugly hair!!!

[dissention]

I cried at Star Wars.

I'm not a depressed or blue person, I just feel a lot of regret over things I haven't done and am bitter about certain things that I've wanted to do but haven't been able to. Such is life, I suppose.

Cheer up!