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It's discussions, assumptions and accusations like these that make women "bitter". As if we need horribly misogynistic men yacking down our ears about how 'fat' we are, how 'crummy' our cooking is, telling us our houses aren't clean. When something is repeated enough times it 'becomes truth'. So each time a derogatory post about middle aged women is made, it roots itself deeper into the mind of the woman reading it (in some cases, this is. I know the majority of the women here are rightfully self confident and wouldn't believe such lies) and she begins to believe that she's fat and that she can't cook. And hey presto, you've damaged her possibly beyond repair. Homer, have you ever stopped to think what kinda crap your drummer gives or has given his wife in the past? Or if her family have ground her down so much that she feels she has to put up a front which makes you now describe her as able to give lessons to Hitler? There are reasons for everything. I used to be so aggressive it was unreal but it was because I had a crummy home life and was fighting battles with myself over a million and one things at once, all caused because I was scared to death of how people perceive me. I'm not a beeotch for the fun of it. My dad is in his mid 40's somewhere and he cheated on my mum with one of his pupils (he's a driving instructor). I don't speak to him now, not solely because of this, but it contributes. He was in a position of care and he outright abused it. I know that most 40+ men aren't in these positions of care but those 20 year old girls are young enough to be your daughters. Imagine if you did have a 20 y/o daughter and she came home with a 40 year old? You'd probably kick him out of the house and down the street before grounding her and telling her to be more sensible. This paragraph isn't aimed at just Homer, btw. Also, can I just point out. I'd rather sleep with a woman like Joan Jett than most girls my own age. She's experienced but not bittered, she's wise, she's more toned than any under 25's I've seen lately and I bet she wouldn't lie like a corpse in the bedroom Last edited by ButterCookie; 01-20-2011 at 11:48 AM.. |
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Completely agree Georgie. ^
Nice last bit there too Oddly the few women that I am attracted to *not pointing fingers at a certain Miss Harry in my signature there * aren't near my age either. |
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Great post Georgie, with you 100%
I feel the same way, with girls I'm attracted to it probably ranges from 16 up to the late 60's, but with dudes it's mostly in the 30's/40's |
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Even though we're all friendLY, we're not really friends(as in, we don't hang out together - the 2 to 3 weekends a month, we play together, is enough! ). |
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And I'm a 35 year old who has a better body that I did when I was 20 so I have nothing to be bitter about, only to be proud of. I'm healthy, in shape & in a happy, monogamous long-term relationship with my husband. Is he attracted to 20 year olds? Of course, what man wouldn't be? But he bangs me, despite that fact that I'm a bitter, over the hill harpy according to your standards. I think what's bugging me about your posts is that I was under the impression that you wanted to find love. It's just that I don't think that's going to happen by serial dating younger chicks you meet at the bar. If all you want is a good time & to feel attractive (which you're equating to thin, but that's a whole other topic) then you're all set I guess. But I swore I remember you posting in the past that you're lonely & want to find the right person - no? The reason I asked about the 23 year old is if you're serious about her, why are you still dating other chicks, like the 19 year old you "drew the line" at? Quote:
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Looks like some of the youngsters here agree with me - are they taking it personally too? Just curious. |
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But yes, he's hardly the only middle-aged man to be interested in young girls, and I haven't seen any posts that implied he is. Buttercookie DID point out that many fathers of teenage girls are in their forties, and would not be thrilled at their daughters dating men of their age, and that it's irresponsible for men in positions of care to carry on with subordinates. Would you really argue with that? Pretty factual, no? But I'm probably getting more controversial here. Even given that all men are attracted to fertility, I think dating a girl young enough to be your daughter is pushing it. I'm not speaking specifically about Homer, here. But those college aged years are so important, I think. I know I've changed and matured a great deal just in the last two years. I think it's irresponsible for a 40-year-old to pull a 19-year-old into his world. It's robbing her of a part of her youth (again, not talking about Homer. I realize he didn't take it farther with the 19yo). It makes her the subordinate in the relationship, and lessens her opportunities to grow at her her own rate. My parents started dating when my mother was 17, my father 24. Mum came from an enormously dysfunctional household, had monumental daddy issues, and by her own admission, was seeking a father figure. My father was a business school grad, working in banking, and hanging out with other young professionals. She was definitely more mature and experienced than your average teen--she'd been working and largely supporting herself through school. But even thought they're very happily married, she's told me she feels like she missed those years. She went to college, but lived with my father, didn't make college friends, and spent her time hanging out with people much older than herself (obviously 7 years isn't a huge gap in your forties, but it's considerable in terms of life experience the younger party is a teenager. Though she's very happy now, Mum has told me she can't help but be a bit jealous that I get to experience these years. That's just one story--by no means is it representative. I'm trying to point out, though, that large age disparities can be harmful. Again, I completely, totally get why older men are attracted to younger women. I'm just illustrating the perspective I'm coming from, and why I see it as problematic. But I guess that's a slightly different topic. I'm less concerned with the preference for young girls than I am with the way older women are discussed. Because while the former is completely expected, and decreed by Mother Nature, the latter is offensive, careless, and and completely unnecessary. The descriptions of women's personalities as we age have been sexist. I don't think we take sexism as seriously as racism or homophobia, and I wish I knew why. What I and others have been offended by is the way he's stated his preferences. Whether intentional or not, his posts were inflammatory. Surely, it's offensive to say that "the odds increase, seemingly exponentially, that age breeds bitterness" (but only in women?). Or that 40-year-old women are generally "bitter, jaded, argumentative, and very little fun to be around." There's a difference between not being attracted to older women, and declaring that we decay internally and externally as we age. Buttercookie's post, quite rightly, pointed out that many women are made bitter by the men in their lives, or the criticisms women are subjected to. It's possible that his bandmates' wives have always been wretched shrews (which I doubt--surely their husbands saw something they loved at one point). But in most bad marriages, there is fault on both sides. And there are many, many lovely women married to abusive, angry, or just loser husbands. So perhaps it's worth considering that there's variety beyond his test group of...2 women. So I guess I'm an embittered young woman. Certainly not in all areas, but yes--I'm bitter that I've been given an expiration date. So there you are--1 bitter young woman. You're halfway to being able to judge us all! Homer, you've expressed a desire to move on from the topic. And indeed, I think we'll always disagree. But since you've offended multiple people, I would say the best way to end it is to apologize. If not for your basic views, for the fact that others were offended. Isn't that reason enough?
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I do think we SHOULD just agree to disagree. Honestly, I'm on cloud nine right now, and just want to enjoy the excellent place that I'm in, right now. |
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I will NOT apologize, for expressing my opinions, and experiences. This IS Chit Chat, and I'm only honestly expressing my opinions. If you don't like them, IGNORE them. GOD f*cking forbid, that a man gives his honest opinion. Because we've been silent long enough, living under this PC regime!(I was dying to use Rush's "f-N" quote, but I'll leave that one for Rush).
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This one, never goes to bars. Never. We were dating a year ago. And I'm not the one, that put it back together. And I was very apprehensive about it(about me being a yo-yo, again), so I was still dating others. Not anymore, because things are starting to get more serious. Last night's date, was incredible(no, not sexually. Emotionally.). I know! Grandpa nails a hottie! Fortunately, Grandpa's at the top of his game. Grandpa got guessed as 25, on Saturday night! I don't pretend to be able to pander to mass appeal. Only stating my preferences. Which clearly get under your skcin. |
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2) That's great. You might want to stop making dates with others then. 3) My husband gets carded & looks 19. Yay for him? I guess? He doesn't need that to boost his ego. 4) Your preferences don't bother me at all, truly they don't. However, your sexist & agist (is that word? ageist?) comments do. I hope you finally find happiness withe the right girl. |
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2) Like I said, I'm not dating anyone else. I wouldn't even consider it now. 3)Good for Mark(?,if memory serves). Better that, than offering him a senior discount! 4)I'm as ageist as they come. More so concerning myself, than anyone. I threw away a decade of my life, and I'm reclaiming every minute of it! |
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And anyway, I didn't even ask you to apologize for voicing your opinions, reprehensible as I find them. I asked you to apologize for having offended people. I didn't say you had to take anything back-- a simple "I'm sorry I said something that was hurtful to others." Isn't that a basic law we're supposed to master by age three? You hurt someone, you apologize. But it doesn't seem like that will happen, and I feel pretty stupid, actually, for letting a 3-year-old rattle me. So I'm stepping away.
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