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![]() Since this is a whole gay thread (which is a great thing), I have a question for all of you gays out there. Do you often have people say things to you like, "Oh, I really support gay rights. I mean, I have lots of gay friends." To me, that's like saying, "I have lots of black friends." Besides, I'm pretty sure everyone has gay friends or acquaintances at this point. It seems that when people make a point of saying things like that, they're implying that there really is a major difference between us. They could say, "I really support gay rights because everyone should be treated equally."
Of course, I realize that we (gays) have a tendency to set ourselves apart from the rest of society in many ways. (Take parades, bars, clubs, etc., for example). But maybe all of this is inevitable, until we do have equality. I find that it's an endless debate. Many say that Black History Month is unnecessary and harmful even because it sets blacks apart from whites, when that is what we intended not to do. But in the U.S., many wouldn't learn about black history any other way, and until that changes, I suppose we do need Black History Month. Is this resonating with anyone? I know it's some meandering, but I think it's all related. ![]() Hillary |
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"Do not be afraid! I am Esteban de la Sexface!" "In order to live free and happily, you must sacrifice boredom. It is not always an easy sacrifice" Whehyll I can do EHYT!! Wehyll I can make it WAHN moh thihme! (wheyllit'sA reayllongwaytogooo! To say goodbhiiy!) - |
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1) If you want to, you will get to have children when you decide you want and when you are ready to take care of them emotionally and financially. 2) As a woman, you are already familiar with the ins and outs of a woman's body- therefore, you are primed and ready to be able to please your partner without all that guesswork. 3) Disposable income! 4) The government has no control over your relationships- since there is no burden of having to worry about whether or not be married, your relationship will always be based on whether or not you are in love and the your desire to be together, rather than having to worry about legal entanglements. 5) You can't get drafted! 6) No birth control! 7) You don't have to concern yourself with parents pressuring you to have a child. 8) Fabulous culture with a world full of friends to make. I could go on and on and on...... |
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![]() And to your other point, obviously i see what you mean, but perhaps these people are really trying to sort of comfort you the best way they can think of, you know, let you know they are not judging you. And maybe they are doing it in that less-than-perfect way because they know there is so much prejudice. At least i hope that's what it is. It's kinda lame, yeah, but hopefully at least these people have good intentions. You should come here...there's lotsa cuties. And I know for sure the gay bar up the street from my house is really fun, and that's just one...you should wait till your 21.... ![]()
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"Do not be afraid! I am Esteban de la Sexface!" "In order to live free and happily, you must sacrifice boredom. It is not always an easy sacrifice" Whehyll I can do EHYT!! Wehyll I can make it WAHN moh thihme! (wheyllit'sA reayllongwaytogooo! To say goodbhiiy!) - |
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"Do not be afraid! I am Esteban de la Sexface!" "In order to live free and happily, you must sacrifice boredom. It is not always an easy sacrifice" Whehyll I can do EHYT!! Wehyll I can make it WAHN moh thihme! (wheyllit'sA reayllongwaytogooo! To say goodbhiiy!) - |
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If your straight friends really do care, I wouldn't consider their comments condescending. A born again christian that I work with refers to my partner as my "friend" as in "Hey, what are you and your friend doing this weekend?" That word in that context is like nails on a chalkboard to me, but I know her heart's in the right place and that she's trying to be nice, so it's alright. |
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![]() ok, but who's gonna like me with a mullet? ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() AMber
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"Do not be afraid! I am Esteban de la Sexface!" "In order to live free and happily, you must sacrifice boredom. It is not always an easy sacrifice" Whehyll I can do EHYT!! Wehyll I can make it WAHN moh thihme! (wheyllit'sA reayllongwaytogooo! To say goodbhiiy!) - |
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"Do not be afraid! I am Esteban de la Sexface!" "In order to live free and happily, you must sacrifice boredom. It is not always an easy sacrifice" Whehyll I can do EHYT!! Wehyll I can make it WAHN moh thihme! (wheyllit'sA reayllongwaytogooo! To say goodbhiiy!) - |
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Yes. Yes, I am. ![]() ...nah.....just the effect I was going for. -Curt
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![]() Uhm, well I guess it's pretty anti-climatic for me to say I'm gay (what?! when?!!
![]() ![]() Hillary, don't worry... a lot of us go through periods of self-doubt, confusion, etc. And, unfortunately, not everyone gets to a place of self-pride. But it is possible to come from crippling self-doubt to being comfortable in your own skin. Trust me, about 6-7 years ago, or so, I was NOT "proud to be gay." It was something I struggled with for a long time. I denied my sexual orientation to myself and anyone who would listen. And I totally relate to what the Tower said about expriencing life and love through Mac/Stevie songs when I was a teenager. That music was my only outlet... I wasn't yet able to express myself in my own words, so I expressed myself through Stevie's. I'm not the first person to say this, so I can't take credit... but being gay ain't for sissies. I wouldn't have chosen to be gay (I scoff at anyone who calls homosexuality a "lifestyle choice"), but I'm glad to now be able to say that I'm happy with who I am and I'm happy to be gay. It adds a certain amount of complications and difficulties to one's life, but we all have our crosses to bear, so to speak. I find myself in an odd position, because, being gay, I inherently don't fit in entirely with straight people... but I also don't fit in entirely with the so-called gay community either. I'm not the "ruggedly macho," sports-loving, outdoor-living type, but I'm not the more flamboyant type either. I've been told by well-meaning friends that I need to wear my hair in "gay styles," or that I need to "dress more gay," etc. I've also been told on many occasion that I need to "play the game" if I want to find someone. Maybe I'm stubborn, but I prefer to play by my own rules, and stay true to myself. People want to pigeon-hole you... even other gay people. But, as a wise man once said, "it's important to remember that no one falls into a simple set of labels." So, Hillary, my best advice to you, would be to stay true to yourself. Eventually you'll feel good about yourself in general, and not just about being gay. Sexual orientation is just one VERY small part of who we are (or at least it should be).
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![]() Queer here!
![]() I think things are definitely getting better. When I was a twirling closeted gay adolescent, I never thought there would be gay proms, gay weddings, gay people all over TV, or vocal gay political groups and leaders. Thank God today's gay youth are growing up in a world where they see themselves better reflected in society, even if it is somewhat in a harsh light at times. It just makes them stronger, in the end, and that's what matters. Our next task is to truly unite and pool our resources and power, and we're home free. It won't be easy, and it won't be quick, but it will happen. Who knows -- maybe the thread you're reading right now could create the spark that changes the world! ![]() |
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I could never have imagined that when I was in school. Being closeted seemed like the only way one could get through high school in, roughly, one piece. I think anytime a minority group makes in-roads, there's bound to be a level of backlash... people hold onto old ways of acting and thinking, with extreme tenacity... but the progress we're making can't be taken away from us. We've achieved too much to allow ourselves to be shoved back into the dark reaches of the proverbial closet. But the struggles aren't over, and we still have a long way to go. Someday ALL in the Gay/Lesbian community will feel comfortable with being themselves, and won't have to worry about the violence and prejudice that we're still often faced with today. "Let there be light in this lifetime...."
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