Pathetic and self indulgent post here - Page 2

Johnny Stew · #16 09-18-2005, 04:16 PM

About a year after we broke up, the first guy I dated called me and said he missed me and wanted to spend time together again... just as friends.
I still had some feelings for him and knew it probably wasn't the smartest thing to do, but I missed him too, so I agreed.

Well, hanging out and talking about "the good ol' times" led to us sleeping together again... which was fun in the moment, but was definitely dumb to do given the lingering feelings.

Luckily enough though, it helped me find closure because it reminded me of why we weren't right for each other to begin with (I was into him, and he was into him), and why we could never go the distance (communication was not the strongest area in our relationship).

So, Brandon, I guess you just have to consider whether or not seeing your ex-girlfriend again will help you find closure on the relationship so you can focus on the friendship side of it, or if it'll just make it more difficult to move on.
Sometimes we need to see them again to find it, and other times we need to just walk away forever.

shackin'up · #17 09-18-2005, 05:37 PM

My advise: stay.

What I'd do: go. Because love does not match with ratio. Your heart will say if it was a good choice or not afterwards. You can't do that before.

greatdarkwing · #18 09-18-2005, 06:48 PM

Well, my experience is that whenever my ex and I have seen eachother since our break-up, we end up...well....you know. Its very hard to forget past emtions and feelings.....and HORMONES!

**mylittledemon** · #19 09-18-2005, 06:57 PM

Got a call from her about an hour ago and she couldnt make it tonight. She wants to meet tomorrow....so we'll see what happens!

eclipse · #20 09-19-2005, 05:48 AM

You know, I'll expect details

Be careful with your heart

irishgrl · #21 09-19-2005, 06:24 AM

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Originally Posted by mylittledemon

Got a call from her about an hour ago and she couldnt make it tonight. She wants to meet tomorrow....so we'll see what happens!

Good Luck!

DavidMn · #22 09-19-2005, 10:28 AM

Believe me when I say this, I've had those lonely feelings when I've fought with my signifigant other, and what happens is that I let those feelings get in the way of what I should do. The best advice I can give is to look past that if you can. Good luck.

BTFLCHLD · #23 09-19-2005, 10:42 AM

i dont know you well enuf to say stay or go...but i will offer the advice to go to your nearest library or order from amazon the book "he's just not that into you" (greg behrendt and liz tuccillo.) this book will help you see clearly through the excuses and reasoning for the break ups to want to get back to the make ups and how youd be a fool to fall into the trap...over and over and over again! lonely? get a puppy and wait for that perfect person to love you and receive your love just as you are

DavidMn · #24 09-19-2005, 10:44 AM

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Originally Posted by BTFLCHLD

i dont know you well enuf to say stay or go...but i will offer the advice to go to your nearest library or order from amazon the book "he's just not that into you" (greg behrendt and liz tuccillo.) this book will help you see clearly through the excuses and reasoning for the break ups to want to get back to the make ups and how youd be a fool to fall into the trap...over and over and over again! lonely? get a puppy and wait for that perfect person to love you and receive your love just as you are

Very good advice Niki my friend. Lovely pictures by the way. Hope you had a nice weekend.

**mylittledemon** · #25 09-19-2005, 12:11 PM

I JUST got back from a lunch with her. As soon as she saw me, she put her arms around me and kissed my cheek. We went inside and sat down and I immediately ordered a drink. We didnt say anything for a second. I said "well what are your intentions here?" She said that she missed me, but that she was angry at me and resentful. I said that I would agree. I told her about remembering this time I jumped in the shower and scared her about 2 years ago when I she didnt know I was home early. She actually started crying. She said that she is thinking about all these good times we had together, and is trying to let go of the bad, because in the end she still cares about me and doesnt want to remember the negative stuff.

I made a point to tell her that we've only been apart for 3 months now, and that's not nearly long enough to let go of any resentment that is festering. Especially if we tried to get back together...and if I did one little thing to set her off, all those bad memories would come back. I told her that wasnt fair to me, and it isnt fair to her either. I told her I wanted her to be happy, and that I cant make her happy right now.

After all the emotional stuff, we got to talking about my father, who is very sick and in the hospital. She was concerned I think....and we talked about me going to New Zealand next year. She honestly cant believe that I'm going to do it...and she claims that the knowledge of that was NOT was caused her to part ways with me.

At the end of lunch, she reached across the table and grabbed my hand and she said she loved me. I told her I love her too, and maybe we could start over again sometime up the road...and I said I was sorry, and left.

strandinthewind · #26 09-19-2005, 12:13 PM

^^^

Well, it seems like it went well and some air got cleared. I bet you feel relieved

Who knows, maybe things will work out and you all can be together - that line sounds like a SN/LB shipper argument

Seriously, cool for you!

**mylittledemon** · #27 09-19-2005, 12:19 PM

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Originally Posted by strandinthewind

^^^

Well, it seems like it went well and some air got cleared. I bet you feel relieved

Who knows, maybe things will work out and you all can be together - that line sounds like a SN/LB shipper argument

Seriously, cool for you!

Well like I told her, I still love her, but I dont think I'm the guy to make her happy. we both just want different things out of our lives. New Zealand is calling me....she is in school and wants a career. It was kind of a bittersweet meeting to say the least. So now I'm cozying up to some Jack Daniels.

strandinthewind · #28 09-19-2005, 12:24 PM

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. . . So now I'm cozying up to some Jack Daniels.

Lord love ya - I was there Sat. evening with the same kind of company

GypsySorcerer · #29 09-19-2005, 12:25 PM

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Originally Posted by mylittledemon

Well like I told her, I still love her, but I dont think I'm the guy to make her happy. we both just want different things out of our lives. New Zealand is calling me....she is in school and wants a career. It was kind of a bittersweet meeting to say the least. So now I'm cozying up to some Jack Daniels.

Aw, I'm sorry.

It really is easier if you don't see them.

BTFLCHLD · #30 09-19-2005, 08:01 PM

alas...ive been hurt again tonight by the insensitive chit ive allowed to spend time w/me...im at the point where i just throw my head back and laugh..i suppose ive become insensitive myself...to the pain...but as emily dickenson once said "hope is the thing with feathers that perches in the soul and sings the tune without words and never stops at all" i do believe there is someone who will love me fully and without condition some day....