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This is an interesting topic.
I have usually dated older guys, mostly because I found the ones my age too immature. Although now that I am 30, that is becoming less of a problem. I wouldn't have a problem dating someone a year or two younger, but I can't picture myself with someone significantly younger, ever. The problems I see with big age differences (15-20 years or more) are long-term. At 30, say I wanted to start a family, but my (hypothetical) 55 year-old husband/boyfriend/whatever already raised children from a first marriage (cause at that age, it's highly likely) and wanted no part of chasing a youngster around at 60. And I had to watch my aunt play nursemaid at 50 to her dying husband, who was near 70. He treated her so horribly (and he was very sick, so his behavior in part was attributed to that). Then she was a widow at 51 or 52.... now she's back in the dating world, trying it all again. It does come down to individuality, I think. I know some "old" twenty-somethings, and some "young" forty-somethings. Last edited by GypsySorcerer; 01-14-2011 at 04:24 PM.. |
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And yeah, if it makes you feel any better....... I'd only go past 55 for Lindsay |
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And for a long time, Valerie had more than A FEW EXTRA POUNDS on her. FIFTEEN, is a few extra pounds. Fifty, is MORE than a few. Now, why would I want a 40yo, when I can have two 20's? |
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Moral? It took the family a while, but they finally realized, that age meant nothing. He was a wonderful person, and we grew to love him. The "number", no longer mattered. |
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So, since you've been 15, you haven't dated anyone under 30? I'm sorry. Call me a prude, but I just have a problem with that. At 15 and 16, you're still just a baby. I know people mature at different paces, but still. What 30 year old wants to date a 15 or 16 year old? Unless, of course, they don't know the truth. If they do know the truth, they have problems. I am of the opinion that an age difference matters less as you get older, but it can still be a hinderance. Until the youngest person is out of college (assuming they go to college straight from high school), a large age gap makes a huge difference. You are at two completely different places in your lives. Even now. You're 18 - almost 19. You're a freshman in college going to frat parties and experimenting with foreskin. A 39 year old is, more than likely, settled into a career, owning a first or second home and either has a family or is ready to start one. I'm not saying you can't get along and have fun together. Just that, in the long run, it usually doesn't work out. Take the example above. When you're ready to retire, travel and have fun, you're going to have to change your spouses diapers. Or, when you're ready to start a family, he's ready to retire. I had a friend who was 27 when she started dating a 45 year old friend of mine. He was a young 45 for sure, but the age difference was just always there. To each his own, but at some points in time, the age difference does become a defining point of the relationship. |
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Anyway....When I did date. I dated younger. up to 3 years younger. My Wife is just a year younger. And I did not date that much anyway. Mick
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People DO mature at much different rates. The 20yo that was texting me last night, may as well be 30. Same for my best friend, who's 22. They may as well be 30, because that's how they act. No drama. No teenage bullsh*t. Nice adult behavior. However, my 23yo, while brilliant(grad student, teaching university level chemistry classes), is extremely immature, socially. And I will admit, that it sometimes feels a little awkward, in social situations. BUT, we both care for each other, and the passion is off the charts(I don't mean sex), so we're just talking it day by day. And that's the point I had to get across. Whether we last 2 days, or 2 months, or 20 years, it is, what it is. It's only good, as long as it's good for both of us. |
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I've never made that mistake before. I fail.
In regards to comments against what I said earlier-- don't care what you guys say about it, to the point that I'm not reading your posts. Sorry. I've been criticized for this by people whose opinions I actually care about (people I know and love in real life) and it still hasn't changed my stance. Also, I turn 19 in 2 weeks-- didn't started dating older people until I was halfway through 16. Call it whatever you want, but it's worked very well for me and I am happy with the decisions I've made. Last edited by daniellaaarisen; 01-14-2011 at 06:45 PM.. |
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I think you have the perfect outlook, on this situation. Only you know, who and what, makes you happy. Good for you! |
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And, from some of the things you've posted, I'm of the impression that this hasn't worked very well for you. It seems that you are often in relationship dramas and dealing with these men blowing you off and being aloof. I'm not trying to change your mind. I know I can't and I don't really care, just stating my opinion and engaging in the debate. Last edited by camchristo; 01-14-2011 at 07:06 PM.. |
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I worry about Dani (she knows this) but truthfully, it's hard to change who you're attracted to. I worry more about the type of man who would want to be in a serious relationship with someone so young (not necessarily talking about Dani, here). |
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