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We're not being tested on this. My meaning was pretty simple and wasn't intended to be complex - or graded. It was simply to express that this situation MAY be more complex than it appears to be on the surface; and that senior year should be a FUN year - for example all the dances that high schoolers go to - with each other. It seems to me that you're automatically equating my general statement "have fun" with the specific idea of "having fun" with the older teacher. At any rate, in my honest opinion we've let this expand a little bit more than anybody ever intended. Danni had a great, meaningful conversation with a teacher and after asking her about it, she's confirmed to us that there's no problem and that everything's okay. As we all know she's a very smart and mature person and I'm sure she has everything "under control." So let's just feel happy that she had this meaningful conversation that she's chosen to share with us; and I hope we can just leave it there and move on to sharing other great stuff. Quote:
Who said anything about trying to be cerebral? I was trying to be nice. Oh by the way, like Pulitzer-Prize winner Samantha Power said, "Never use the big word when the small word will do." "Specious" isn't exactly college-level . . . That's high school. Assuming and implying that a person is unintelligent and "trying to be cerebral" just because you don't like every little detail of their argument or because you disagree with them is Junior High School. And hurtful. We now return to our "regulary scheduled programming."
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So if the ghosts are gone then doesn't that mean I'm kinda screwed?? Last edited by Ghost_Tracker; 09-09-2009 at 02:59 AM.. |
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ALL THAT being said, no one is going to call DSS. |
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^Yes, but your situation, it appears, is different - your mentors were female. Dani's is male. And she said he was sexy and she was obsessed with him. And she's mentioned several times on these boards that she is into older men.
When I was in junior high, the assistant principal tried to be buddy-buddy with me. I babysat for him a few times (during which his daughter told me she hated her dad). My mom despised the guy and kept major tabs on the situation. I'm glad she did. He was convicted of child molestation the following summer and sentenced to nine years in prison. Looking back now, I can see he was trying to set it up to go down that road with me. Granted, I was 13 and Dani is 17. However, I don't care how mature you are, or think you are. You just are not equipped as a 17 year old to handle a relationship with a lates 20's or 30 something teacher. And shame on him for not finding someone other than a student to share these deep emotions with. Some lines should just not be crossed. I don't know Dani and I'm not going to lose sleep over what she decides to do with her life. I'm just expressing my opinion, as one of the older members of this board (since it is now overrun with teenagers), and trying to provide some perspective from an old lady's point of view. |
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Dani, I don't want you to feel like we're all ganging up on you, but I have to agree with Carrie, Jannie and Cam. I have to admit I was pretty shocked by your post. The teacher is in the wrong here 100 per cent, I mean, I think it's great that many of you feel you are friends with your teachers, but your teacher should not be spending alone time with any of his students and pouring out his life story and feelings, no matter how special said student is. I would say he's pretty aware of the fact you like him, and that makes it all the more inappropriate.
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rather disturbing...the 'sexy sexy' teacher and his sex poems. yikes.
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I'd like to add that your age has little to do with my opinion (though it is in the back of my mind, making me uncomfortable). I think Carrie mentioned it, but it's the balance of power, boundaries, etc. that makes it disturbing. This is why it's inappropriate for any teacher, therapist, employer, etc to be emotionally involved with their student, client, employee, etc.
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Beethoven pined for several of his female piano students, and sometimes dedicated compositions to them or even proposed marriage to them. These relationships usually floundered when Beethoven forced the young lady into a (figurative) corner, pressing his feelings, & compelling her to tell him bluntly that she wasn't interested in him in "that way." The inappropriateness of Beethoven's behavior extended to his eccentricity in dress. Count von Keglevics, the nephew of Beethoven's pupil Barbara, wrote: "He had the whim -- one of many -- since he lived across from her, of coming to give her lessons clad in a dressing gown, slippers, & a peaked nightcap."
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I started sixth form today. Incase anyone isn't aware of the British school system, sixth form is like college, except all I had to do is stay at my secondary school. I didn't see the need for upheaval to move to another school, and then get acquainted with everyone, with teachers I didn't know. At least this way I know I've got amazing teachers, and will achieve the grades I want.
Anyway, I found out I got onto my Pyschology course. I was ecstatic, because I didn't get a high enough Maths grade at GCSE to do it (I got a C, a B was the minimum requirement. English has always been my subject anyway) so I think some strings were pulled and they took into account my English grades. I've got two years of English Literature, History, Politics and Pyschology. Apparently I've took some of the hardest subjects you can take. We don't start proper lessons until Friday, tomorrow is "pirate day"! Supposedly it's a lesson in improvisation and problem solving skills, because we have to build something and the short notice to design our costume is a lesson in having tasks thrust upon you and being required to deal with them.
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To make this more relevant to the thread- Cammie's a little bit beyond gorgeous. JTIS.
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Maybe we've all made "too big a deal" - but so what? Nobody gets hurt if you listen to the voice of experience and carefully, logically consider what some fairly wise friends are saying to you, en masse.
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I'm going to keep up with Ghost Tracker's math analogy to give my thoughts on the situation. This might get a little more suspect than Stevie Nicks's grasp of grammar. I apologize in advance. Like I said before, we're all standing outside the classroom (no pun intended) and trying to help her see that the homework problem she's working on isn't as easy as she's presented it to be. Advice, though, is only as valuable as the knowledge that goes into it. In our case, we know the graduate level mathematics that we think are required to solve this, but what we're hazy on are the actual details of the problem...because Dani hasn't shared them. Is this man a current teacher or a former teacher? Does he have any actual power or authority over her? Just how old is he? What details/tears/emotions might Dani have already shared with him that pushed their relationship from teacher/student to friend/friend? How far is Dani from 18? Has he ever entered into a relationship like this with a student previously? Just how much sex was actually in the "sex poem"? How much of Dani's "obsession" is an actual crush, and how much a glamorization? And, of course, to what extent do we all tweak the true details of our lives when we present them to others? I think the answers to these questions determine whether or not this man should be judged for his behavior (because I think most of the fervor sparked by Dani's post stems from the sex poem, a work whose contents we have no idea of), but whether or not we judge the teacher, the student should be implicitly blameless. If we're assuming Dani should have known better than to get herself into a bad situation, we're also assuming she's an adult capable of making those decisions, and if she's an adult, then why are we bothering with this relationship at all? The moral of my story is really that Dani shouldn't share anymore, because she ruins everything. God.
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I never was there Was there when it counts I get my way You're so like me Last edited by LikeAWillow; 09-09-2009 at 04:06 PM.. |
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